“Dream Girl”

Dear Uche,

I’m sure you meant no harm when we talked about your “type” today, but your words have stuck with me in a way I can’t ignore, especially since I am falling in love with you. You see, it’s important for me to feel like I’m the woman a man has always dreamed of, not someone he had to compromise for or settle for. After that conversation, I can’t help but feel like I’m not all of what you truly want. It feels like you’re giving up something—your preference for a slimmer woman—just to be with me. And while I appreciate that you see beauty in me, it leaves me questioning how you really feel. It also leaves me saddened that if you choose me you'll never have what you truly want. I’m very sensitive about my weight and how I’m perceived, especially by the man I’m with. I’ve worked hard to be confident, but this has shaken me. I don’t want to feel like I’m a compromise or that I’m only here because I’m “good enough” in other ways. You deserve to be with someone who fulfills everything you want in a partner, and I deserve to feel like I’m someone’s dream girl. P.S. I always knew you were my dream guy.

Love,

Victoria