The Distance Between U.S.

Dear Uche,

Today, I’m struggling with being away from you. I’ve found myself Googling articles about long-distance relationships and how to cope. Sundays are especially hard because you dedicate them to family and friends, and I feel so left out. It’s particularly tough since I don’t spend my Sundays the same way—I’m alone, and without you, they feel so empty.

I’m trying to stay independent and fill my life without you, but you’re a large part of my thoughts every single day. I wish I could talk to you all the time, but I know you need your freedom. Everything feels so hard today. Can I do this for two years? It’s already challenging, and it’s only been three months. I already feel the urge to book my next trip to Nigeria, even before my first visit.

This relationship has taught me so much about myself. I’ve realized that quality time is my true love language, even though I once thought it was acts of service or words of affirmation. Quality time—whether through messages, video chats, or even sharing Instagram reels—makes me feel so loved and cared for. I just feel so needy right now, and I don’t know how to cope.

I know this is my battle to fight, but I’m writing this with tears in my eyes because it’s so hard. I want more, but I know you can’t give that to me right now. I have to decide what I can handle and whether I can handle this.

No matter what, I love you.

Vic